Since I have been in the CORPORATE world for years and years and years, as I hated who I were when I were a CORPORAT creature….coming out of it developed certain sensor towards the people who are still trapped in their own suits as well as towards the practice of “ OBJECTIFYING HUMANITY”
As I was having my lunch in one of those “ ELITE CLUBS” in DUBAI I was surrounded by CORPORATES all around and it fascinates me how talented and experts they are in “OBJECTIFYING HUMANITY”, the practice was on peak when it came to the service staff.
Here is the girl in here beautiful black dress waiting for minutes to take the order from the group of Viking predators; a scan over the Black berry, a glance over the expensive watch, an off the nose chat with the companion and finally an “ohhhh pathetic” look to the girl followed by giving the order with a full refurbishment to what ever the plate should have ever been. With a humble smile they girl replied “ Sure Sir” and that was never seen or even heard.
I am a regular member at the club and being a life coach gave me the ability to feel beyond the performed, I know each and every member of the staff, their names, their home countries, if they have family or no…and I usually find pleasure in acknowledging the little of what they are proud of and the staff is usually very open and safe when they are talking to me, I know a lot for a member.
So out of extreme curiosity to know, I started to ask the service staff “ HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE TREATED AS an OBJECT” and by the way I needed no explanation to what could have that been as they all know it by heart- to my surprise.
The answers came SHOKING….
And the most heartbreaking thing is the feelings that wrapped each and every word. I never thought it would be that deep and of such devastating effect, some of them pitied them selves being forced to be here others put a facade of “This how the business is” and others felt angry towards themselves accepting being here.
The common crave of all the service team was a simple SMILE; it would have made all the difference……….
We all do so and it is a mean to feed our shame and not enough feelings by attempting proving the opposite to ourselves, it is part of our armors, façades and protection strategy.
We do it all the way with our spouses, our children, our colleagues and some times even to our selves.
BE aware when you slip into the “OBJECTIFYING” practice; it HURTS
~ Marwa Karoura, A GOOD LIFE