I usually find my self highly engrossed, enthralled and charmed by the amount of thought diversity I encounter in the workshops, specifically when I work with young emeriti nationals.
As part of developing the UAE’s upcoming generations Emotional Intelligence competencies, I have been engaged in a 6-month development program with one of the government’s oil & gas companies in Abu Dhabi, UAE. With no surprise I was fascinated as usual.
In last week’s session, we were discussing the concept of regard of others; how it is important and how effective the relation is under such practice and belief. The entire subject was revolving around how we should respect others being and understand how to separate the person from the action; separate the being from the doing.
Only then one of the attendees raised his hand and told me, I simply just can’t, would it be ok to accept their being and not respect it!!!!
The question came as a bombshell and the room started murmuring here and there…and he went on…. when you say RESPECT I find my self helplessly associating my self in the others being and most of the times if I’m on conflict I simply fail to respect. I can’t respect bluntness, I can’t respect inflexibility, I can’t respect individualism, I can’t respect lots of things that are actually the main source of the created conflicts.
While if you ask me to ACCEPT all of those things; I simply don’t feel that level of association and I’m being able to just accept the fact that we are different. The ACCEPT doesn’t make me experience the same physical symptoms of increased heart beat, blood rushing into my head, choking feeling in the throat and a the fair stomachache. I simply don’t have any physical symptoms when I simply ACCEPT.
And out of 20 participants 15 highly agreed!!!
Opening the discussion and dedicating the time for more inputs I found that the value of respect within the local culture is on top of the value pyramid of most of the attendees and associating it with difference and specifically cultural differences creates lots of dissonance which have highly deprived most of the attendees to embrace regard of others as a competency. While when we replaced the RSPECT with the ACCEPT it created more resonance and the regard of others as a competency was highly appreciated instead of resisted.
Editor: Marwa Karoura