Acknowledgement is an art on it self, it gives a level of self fulfillment that no other tool could ever give to a human being, the twinkling in the eyes, the blast of blood through the veins, the heart pounding in the chest, the pleasant nipping in the stomach, the rush of air through the lungs are all symptoms of proper acknowledgement and the beauty of it that both parties enjoys the same marvelous feelings when it is genuine and real.
When I first introduced this term in one of the workshops KTalk was running for UAE nationals they were sardonic, sarcastic as well as mocking. They came to me with a local proverb saying, “ The acknowledgement in the face is an insult”!!!! Despite the fierce resistance I have insisted that we should at least try, they either prove me wrong or I would prove them wrong.
And, it was majestically done; every single one had relished receiving acknowledgements but more over they have treasured giving acknowledgements. It was as if there was in each of the participants’ hands a magical wand that sprinkles its magical dust all over the air, with simply it falling all over the place tinting it with passion, pleasure, pride, love, respect, appreciation, content and laughter.
And the secret of that magic is:
- Say it when you really mean it.
When you feel an honest real urge to acknowledge some one with no inner interests, no targeted out come and no evil intentions. Do it out of actual belief rather than it being out of obligation. Do it because you are the one in need of doing it not the person in front of you.
- Use the full existing power
True and genuine acknowledgements create this magical internal status, with massive emotional power that rushes through the heart up to the brain and out through the mouth, with passionate voice, twinkling eyes, sparkling face, pondering heart and a full body sensational excitement. Don’t try to standardize, adjust or normalize this outstanding status just burp it out, it comes way more truthful.
- Chose a word or a metaphor
Just one true genuine from the heart quality word -and not a function or a job -would do all the magic, if your vocabulary failed you- as it does with most of us – just use a metaphor.
- Leave it there
Trying to justify or explain why the acknowledgement is said makes it loos all the charm, just give it as you feel it and leave the rest for the receiver. When we explain, clarify or justify we simply add our own understanding, our own meaning and our inner thought which in majority of the cases not the same as that of the receiver. Say it and leave it for the receiver to own and relate, let them do the math.
Acknowledgement is not only fulfilling for the receiver it is equally fulfilling for the sender as well, just enjoy your emotional status whatever it is. Just love it that you were able to make some one happy.
Editor: Marwa Karoura