Ktalk coaches uses an array of practices, principles and tools that have been proven as the gold standards over the past 20 years of the coaching profession.
+ Positive Psychology
It is the scientific exploration of the conditions and processes that lead to optimal health and performance.
Unlike traditional psychology, which focuses on pathology and finding clinically and empirically valid methods for treating what's wrong, positive psychology emphasizes human strengths and positive experiences to improve the lives of ordinary people. Positive psychology dovetails perfectly with what coaches, therapists, managers, educators, and leaders do: creating conditions under which others and we can flourish.
Coaches who use the principles of positive psychology focus on the potential use of strengths in clients - such as optimism, gratitude, and creativity - for enhancing day-to-day personal Fulfillment. And fulfillment grows when we have positive emotions, engagement and meaning in our lives.
+ Shame Resilience
Shame is a silent epidemic, and the more we keep it secret, the firmer its hold on us. Shame is associated with a host of issues including addiction, violence, and depression. Shame is defined as “the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of connection and belonging.” We cannot escape shame; it is a daily human emotion.
Shame tells us that we are unworthy, unlovable, and incapable of change. Shame tells us that our imperfections make us inadequate and that our vulnerabilities are weaknesses. From the viewpoint of wholehearted living, our imperfections do not make us inadequate; they are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we’re all in this together.
Coaches who uses the principle of shame resilience cultivate resilience to shame by coaching their clients into:
- Recognizing and accepting personal vulnerability: All of us are vulnerable to experiences of shame, our shame triggers. When we recognize the emotional and physical signs of shame, we have the chance to understand what’s happening and why, and to seek help. Conversely, when we fail to acknowledge shame, we are taken off-guard, we are flooded with overwhelming emotions, and we fail to recognize what we are feeling.
- Raising critical awareness regarding social/cultural expectations: Critical awareness surrounding shame is the ability to link how we are personally feeling with society’s sometimes conflicting and shaming expectations of us as individuals. We see the big picture (we contextualize).
- Forming mutually empathetic relationships that facilitate reaching out to others: When we reach out for support, we may receive empathy, which is incompatible with shame and judgment. We recognize that our most isolating experiences are also the most universal. We recognize that we are not defective or alone in our experiences (we normalize).
- “Speaking shame,” possessing the language and emotional competence to discuss and deconstruct shame: By learning the language of shame, we learn to draw distinctions between shame, guilt, embarrassment, and humiliation. We can “name shame” by separating it from secondary emotions such as anger, fear, and isolation. We learn to ask for what we need. We learn and share what we know with others (we demystify)
Shame separates and isolates. Practicing shame resilience reconnects us, where we find courage, empathy, and compassion.
+ Co–Active Model
In the achievements driven environment we are living in, it’s easy to get connected to our achievements and materialistic assets and lose sight of the value of who we really are; our qualities, abilities, capabilities apart from our. Real connection, intimacy, self-awareness, listening deeply to and nurturing others are the very qualities that inform and inspire what we do, restore us and give our lives fulfilling meaning.
Times are changing as the world becomes more and more complex and yet smaller. The need for us to work together to lead effectively is urgent. Relationship intelligence is suddenly paramount to success. Balancing the “being” and the “doing” is firsthand to how individuals and organizations catapult into both higher achievement and deeper connection and fulfillment.
Coaches who uses the principles of the Co-Active model balances the doing and the being by coaching their clients into:
- Transformative change in the way they relate to work and life. The work inspires clients to feel engaged in and passionate about their life and work, see the good, get curious, create interactions unlike any other, become visionary, feel more alive, connect deeply to others, give real meaning to their lives, think much bigger, become great leaders and make a difference... They help clients create a world that works for everyone, a world where they know that who they are is as important as what we do.
- Balances self-awareness, a keen agility with relationships, and courageous action to create an environment where they can be deeply fulfilled, connected to others and successful in what matters most.
- Consciously transforming their fear of the unknown into a curiosity about what's possible.
Co-Active Coaching is an experience of personal and professional development. It begins by holding the coachee as naturally creative, resourceful and whole, and completely capable of finding their own answers to whatever challenges they face. The job of the Coach under this model is to ask powerful questions, listen and empower to elicit the skills and creativity a client already possesses, rather than instruct or advise.
+ Emotional Fitness
Each of us has the potential to improve our performance, but what stops us are our individual interferences, in Emotional Intelligence terms interferences we all possess are essentially negative attitudes, beliefs and habits that prevent us from performing as well as we could.
Emotions are involved in every thing we do; every action, decision and judgment. Emotionally intelligent people recognize this and use their thinking to manage their emotions rather than being managed by them.
Coaches who uses the principles of emotional Intelligence ripen emotional fitness by coaching their clients into:
- Using emotional information from self and other.
- Integrating this with their thinking
- Using these to inform decision making to help get what they want from the immediate situation and from life in general.
Thinking about feeling and feeling about thinking in guiding our behaviors will lead to better management of our self and better relationships with others
+ Personal Value Recognition
Values are hugely important; they are our personal motivators, they are what makes us tick and the greatest tragedy is that most people go through life not even knowing they have got values, and let alone what they are.
We all have a different set of values same way that we all have unique DNS and fingerprints. They are what make us unique and distinct from others. There will never be another human being exactly the same as you on this planet.
Values, beliefs and attitudes have a powerful connection with our thoughts, feelings and behaviors and such combination outlines how we perform and get advantage of our own potentials.
Coaches who uses the principle of personal value recognition cultivate tolerance to difference by coaching their clients into:
- A higher sense of worthiness - we would know better how do we value our selves
- Greater Self-awareness – knowing what makes us tick.
- Greater Self efficacy – self confidence and self esteem rolled together in one
- Increased awareness and understanding of others (Respecting the differences)
- Grounded understanding for goals and greater sense of purposefulness
- Having access to a greater decision making tool
Values are intrinsic parts of who we are, and our core values are far less changeable than our beliefs and attitudes. They live within the emotional, unconscious part of our brain, and for many that’s where they stay. Yet the best way to increase our life fulfillment and accelerate our performance is to have a look inside and discover hoe they can be of a support.